According to Nathaniel Brandon self-esteem is the
experience that we are appropriate to life and to the requirements of life. It
1) Confidence in our ability to think and to cope with the basic challenges in
2) Confidence in our right to be happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving,
entitled to assert our needs and wants and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.
|Self Esteem is learned. The pillars of self esteem are self acceptance,
empathy, trust, competence, and self confidence. Children learn these skills
with an environment that is guided with the right balance of: engagement,
nurturing, structure, and challenge. The way that self esteem is taught is
through loving a child and holding values for them until they can be aware of
the values themselves. We must teach children how to make choices, and to be
responsible for the outcome. If a child is dealing with poor self esteem, we
need to evaluate how to create guidelines through adjusting our personal
expectations, modeling our own values for the child, and modifying the
environment so that it provides balance relative to individual personality and
level of skill. Kids' Club. is designed to teach
children self acceptance in a group setting. Coaching in self esteem and/or
social skills is available for adults also.
|This wonderful poem
Invocation for the Children of the Future really sums up what we
want to be teaching our children regarding their relationship with
the rest of the world. and famous therapist, author Vrigina Satir wrote
this Declaration of Self Esteem for
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